Ended up using the PS from here

https://gallery.technet.microsoft.com/scriptcenter/List-Share-Permissions-83f8c419

Browser service running?  TCP port 1433 and UDP port 1434 allowed?  Let me know.

OS = 2008 R2

yes all servers in same domain.

here is the solution

On cluster, you cannot configure SQL Server to listen on a specific IP addresses. You must choose IPALL. The...

Inner join Result set Key1 value last tuple should be 8 not 6;-)

Are you sure task manager is accurate for 64 bit? I have a std edition server using 6 GB of RAM and task manager is reporting 109 meg? ...

I think I have it figured out. 

I have heard that developer edition is not configured to allow remote installs?

if you suspect SQL Server process try

SELECT spid 'PID', rtrim(status) 'Status', SUSER_SNAME(sid) 'User', rtrim(hostname) 'Host', rtrim(program_name) 'Program', memusage 'Mem Usage', cpu 'CPU Time', physical_io 'I/O', blocked 'Blocked', 'Database'= CASE WHEN...

use master

go

exec sp_lock