Looking Back
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Steve
I always wondered who got my old Porsche.
No regrets at 52 and still going....
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In my opinion Steve this is the best editorial that you have ever written. This is something to frame.
RegardsRudy KomacsarSenior Database Administrator"Ave Caesar! - Morituri te salutamus."
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Wow, what a great editorial. I have to say that as a 38 year old mother of 4 boys, I have alot to be grateful for. I spent alot of my younger years when I was a single mom with my first 2 boys working hard, going to school at night and driving myself pretty hard so that I could fulfill my one dream of buying a house for my kids, even if it was going to be by myself. And I proudly did it in June 2000. But now that I have remarried and have two more boys, only 2yrs old and 4 months old, I look back and I don't want to spend all my time working and driving myself to improve my quality of life. I am very blessed in that we are financially comfortable and I find myself wanting to devote all my time to my kids and my husband. I have never been happier in my life as I am right now, so I would have to say I have no regrets. Maybe just a few "I wish I could have", but I guess that's how it goes.
As for now, I live my life as best as I can through my family and kids and try to find the balance of being a DBA somewhere in between. And as for skydiving...my husband and I jumped for his 30th birthday and loved every second of it!!!!!
Bea Isabelle
Thanks!
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Not learning to fly
Don Weigend
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What a great editorial, Steve... And thank you all for your replies!
I've made it to 60 and find that life gets better, not my body but life, as we get older
As many of you have said your dreams have changed as you've had life changing experiences. Children being one of those, and I can testify that grandchildren are also big life changers. Now my greatest pleasure is to introduce my young grandchildren to things that for one reason or another their parents have not shown them. My children spend large amounts of time and money training and entertaining their off spring, but there is always something that's been left out of the mix. That's where the Papa jumps in on their visits and tests the waters with them to see what trips their little triggers. What great fun!
On a different note, I can understand your wife's concern after a very real dream triggers a strong sense that something bad could happen. My wife was diagnosed with cancer when she was 32. If you haven't reached that age, trust me, it's very young. After extensive treatment at Duke University Medial Center the cancer reappeared 5 years later. In 1992 we were told that she had from 1 to 3 years left. No treatment available or recommended for this particular type of cancer. It's now 2006 and she is still with me.
At the present time she appears to be losing the battle, but I thank God for all the good years we have had together. And though the big C has never been that far away in our thoughts we have learned that life has more than illness to offer and we like where we are today.
Regardless of where you find yourself, enjoy life, you may be here a long time. But if not, all the more reason to enjoy the time you have
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I think it important to not contemplate how much of 'my list' was not accomplished in life, but where would one be if one had no list? And in view of this, I am oft reminded of the words in a John Lennon song: "Life is what happens while planning something else." (or something like that). So, I think it is the 'listing' and not the 'lasting'... (and of course, for those of you perchance, who know not John Lennon, think The Beattles - now there are some memories!)
I recently turned 55 - the speed limit in Oregon. I couldn't help thinking that it has taken me a very long time to get up to speed
HTH,doco
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Thanks for the great replies and I've enjoyed reading them.
William, thoughts and prayers with you and I hope things work out with your wife. My wife lost her mother at 47 to cancer, a young age as well, and as we both approach 40, we're watching out.
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I am 44 years old. My birthday was last Wednesday even my husband and my son forgot about it. I did not care and did not remind them. I do not have a list of things I want to do. To tell the truth, I regretted every decision I had made in my life. If I know I will die tomorrow, I will celebrate today !
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well that certianly depressed me all to naught. I hope you can find some happiness, or at least joy.It's easy to be glib and just say 'brush it off' or it doesn't matter; but if your seriously this down, then finding a hobby or maybe getting a pet are good alternatives which might be at least some pleasent distraction from whatever is making one so regretful.
If you are finding things that bad, one should seek out counciling and or some friends to talk things out.
There is nothing as important as feeling good, I would personally 'take the day off' and go do something that you enjoy.
Finally, Happy Birthday, great to have you with us.
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Why GPF2^...what a very nice "counselling" post....
Loner - Happy B'day (even though so belated) - if it's any consolation, there're very few husbands (& sons) out there who remember days important to us...so you may be a loner but you're not alone...
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While the list idea is not bad, it should not dominate. Some of the most interesting and rewarding opportunities in life come up unbidden, often just once ... the real mistake would be in not grabbing them when they are available. You can always think of reasons not to take the chance.
[Someone I know had the opportunity years ago to work with wild elephants in Sri Lanka, she passed it up because of the potential dangers, and has regretted it ever since]
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