February 18, 2016 at 9:13 pm
Comments posted to this topic are about the item Lessons from Little Green Army Men
February 19, 2016 at 1:20 am
I suspect that the Father lost the battles where the man might not have necessarily done so 😉
Great to hear of children playing soldiers as they unfortunately are a necessary evil in my opinion (not that the service personnel are evil at all just that a group of people are forced to have some of them armed to protect the group because some other collective of people will not allow for peace). Understanding war is important as we need to understand the sacrifice by others, the need for teamwork and it helps us see that it is less than glamorous...
...and playing is fun.
Gaz
-- Stop your grinnin' and drop your linen...they're everywhere!!!
February 19, 2016 at 3:26 am
Just do what you're doing Andy, you're doing a great job.
February 19, 2016 at 4:43 am
Thanks Andy for sharing your story. It was so heart-warming! :-):-)
There is nothing better than spending time with your children (they are a gift of God, I believe. Psalm 127:3)
Happy for you. 🙂 Have it on priority, especially during their teen years. May God bless your little one!
February 19, 2016 at 5:13 am
Awesome example of being being a real father and a real man. Something we see far too little of these days. Kids need their dads every bit as much as they need their moms.
Applause.
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Just my $0.02 from over here in the cheap seats of the peanut gallery - please adjust for inflation and/or your local currency.
February 19, 2016 at 5:24 am
lshanahan (2/19/2016)
Awesome example of being being a real father and a real man......Kids need their dads every bit as much as they need their moms...
Both true and key points. I was fortunate enough to have both parents try to be there as much as they could and I am a better person for it. They even did well enough that I understand the times when they "failed" to be there (life is like that).
Gaz
-- Stop your grinnin' and drop your linen...they're everywhere!!!
February 19, 2016 at 5:48 am
lshanahan, I wonder if it isn't that the fathers don't tell the stories as much?
February 19, 2016 at 5:51 am
Gary, I'm with you on understanding where they did the best they could. Sometimes it helps me do better, sometimes it helps me understand that I don't have to do it all right for things to turn out ok. Interesting to get to that point in life.
February 19, 2016 at 5:52 am
Thanks Bunny! And welcome to SSC:-)
February 19, 2016 at 5:53 am
David - thanks for that. Trying to make every day count!
February 19, 2016 at 6:29 am
Yet another blog type article, why do people feel compelled to tell every possible story they have to tell? No toy women soldiers? So what? It's one of those linkedin keeps sending, a lot of wasted space. I suggest we stick to SQL-Server topics and leave blogging to facebook.
February 19, 2016 at 6:41 am
richlion2 (2/19/2016)
Yet another blog type article, why do people feel compelled to tell every possible story they have to tell? No toy women soldiers? So what? It's one of those linkedin keeps sending, a lot of wasted space. I suggest we stick to SQL-Server topics and leave blogging to Facebook.
Because when you shut home life out of work, you lose that essential balance, which is exactly when home life starts to suffer. IMHO, it's part of emotional maturity.
February 19, 2016 at 7:06 am
Awesome story. I have two daughters and no boys and I am fairly sure I wouldn't change that, though at times I have wished my girls were into a sport other than cheer or dance.
Your story reminds me of my youngest daughter who is 12 now. About 4 years ago she took a sudden interest in RISK (the board game); in particular the Lord of the Rings version (though we play the classic version too). I remember taking the time explaining about armies and to teach her strategy. Every time I think about that about that I smile, remembering all her questions and her attentiveness when I was answering. To this day she still asks for father/daughter time to play RISK.
February 19, 2016 at 7:28 am
Hey richlion2,
I hear you. The vast majority of articles on SSC are technical, or closely related, and I think that's appropriate. The editorial space is different, but not without limits. For instance I'd be reluctant to see politics discussed there, as much as it does impact all of us. It's up to Steve (our editor and my friend) to find the balance and decide what risks to take with this hugely visible place in the SSC culture.
It is also up to me what I write about of course. I like thinking and writing about people, because its all about people and too often we try to reduce things to a formula. Which isn't to say everything I write is successful, or a good fit for this space (for example, I have a recent blog post at sqlandy.com about building a table using iron pipe). This particular editorial is a feel good story, but I liked the embedded themes. Dads teaching daughters and Dads not forcing daughters into "girl" activities, plus the part about female soldiers is a real and important topic. We can't expect girls to grow up believing they are equal if we don't model that. I'm not advocating rules or saying every set of soldiers has to be 50/50 gender (and the same is true of race, etc), just asking you to think about it...indirectly. Editorials should make you think, help you grow, help you see blind spots, sometimes entertain you, sometimes capture you. I hardly ever write to inflame - rarely productive and not my thing.
Possibly I didnt write it as well as I might have - happens all the time! Possibly you're right, that's its too much. Possibly you just have different expectations about this space and the use of your time which is certainly fair.
In any case thanks for reading and commenting.
February 19, 2016 at 8:16 am
Andy -
Continue spending time with your daughter and nurturing the relationship. You'll need it for the teenage years! 😀
You are no doubt aware of the recent changes in combat policy with regard to women.
"When it comes to military combat, it’s not that women are not able to fight, it is that they shouldn’t be fighting at all because they are different than men – different in such a way that they are more deserving of reverence, praise, respect than could ever be demonstrated in armed combat."
I have found the following discussions helpful:
Women Don't Deserve Combat
http://thosecatholicmen.com/articles/women-dont-deserve-combat/
How to Argue Against Women in Combat
http://www.catholic.com/blog/karl-keating/how-to-argue-against-women-in-combat
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