July 3, 2009 at 9:01 am
Lynn Pettis (7/3/2009)
RBarryYoung (7/3/2009)
Lynn Pettis (7/2/2009)
RBarryYoung (7/2/2009)
Lynn Pettis (6/30/2009)
Bored here at work today. I have things to do, but just can't get motivated.
Bored? Dude, you did like 400 over the past week!
Just a little. But's that's okay, I'm sure you'll also catch back up with me the week of the 13th, as I'll be be doing the ref thing that week at the PPI being held at the Air Force Acedemy that week. It is a 7 day long Soccer Tournament for U11 through U18 teams.
And, Oh yeah, I'll be on vacation all nest week, so there's very little chance that I'll catch you anytime soon, Lynne. 🙂
Barry, one tiny thing please, drop the "e" on my name, it is Lynn. 😉
Oops, my bad. Spelling's not my strong suit, in case you haven't noticed.
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July 3, 2009 at 9:10 am
Don't worry. I've spelt Florian's name wrong in a published article and Grant's surname wrong in a post on the MVP newsgroups :blush:
Gail Shaw
Microsoft Certified Master: SQL Server, MVP, M.Sc (Comp Sci)
SQL In The Wild: Discussions on DB performance with occasional diversions into recoverability
July 3, 2009 at 9:30 am
Lynn Pettis (7/3/2009)
Maybe I am letting things get to me more right now, but in this case I really don't think so.It's just how Eswin changed things and tried to make it look like I hadn't met his requirements initially. Perhaps, instead of say "no my date data type is datetime" and had said, okay, but let's change the requirements a bit, now how would you do it. Then none of this would have occurred. And to start off the post with "are you pulling my leg"? Please, I really felt like he was trying to make me look like I wasn't working with him to help solve a problem.
Ah, but you see you are missing a possibility here. It could be both. 🙂 I remember back in Q1 I had several weeks where I was really racking up the posts. But I eventually started to notice that it was having certain effects on me: like I was becoming really fed up that people never seemed to post the dang error message, or that it seemed like half of the posters could have answered their own question if they had just read the error message ("That's right, 'Permission Denied' means that you do not have permission.").
And most of all, that people would say, or describe themselves as doing, something obnoxious or offensive and when they got called on it instead of admitting it and apologizing, they would start equivocating and claim that "that wasn't what I meant" when it was pretty darn clear that that was exactly what they meant. And then I would see red and start going off on them. What I was forgetting was that individual communication (and indeed all social discourse and arguably all progress towards modern civilization) relies on the practice of giving each other a little grace, including allowing other people to occasionally state that they didn't say or mean something that you're pretty sure that they did. (there's actually been scientific studies on this)
Now when when I said above that "I eventually stated to notice...", what I really meant (:-)) was that Jeff Moden sent me a PM smacking me upside the head saying, "Barry, what are you doing? This isn't like you at all." That's when I took a step back and thought about it a little and realized that I was under too much stress and was pushing myself too hard, because these were all tell-tale signs of burnout, specifically what we used to call "newsgroup" burnout.
So, from Jeff to me to you, Lynn: "[*smack!*] Dude! What are you doing? This isn't like you at all." 🙂
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July 3, 2009 at 9:49 am
RBarryYoung (7/3/2009)
...And most of all, that people would say, or describe themselves as doing, something obnoxious or offensive and when they got called on it instead of admitting it and apologizing, they would start equivocating and claim that "that wasn't what I meant" when it was pretty darn clear that that was exactly what they meant...
Hmm, I missed a golden opportunity to try and get one past Gus here because the correct word isn't "equivocation", but rather one of my favorite words, the almost extinct "amphibology" (or sometimes "amphiboly"). But since amphibology has almost disappeared from the language, people use "equivocation" instead.
But if Gus (or anybody else), knew what amphibology meant before I explained it (above) or without having to look it up, I'll definitely be impressed. 😀
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Proactive Performance Solutions, Inc. [/font][font="Verdana"] "Performance is our middle name."[/font]
July 3, 2009 at 9:57 am
GilaMonster (7/3/2009)
You laugh. I was speaking with someone recently and he said that he and his team do some SQL development, but nothing complex, no joins or anything.
chuckle...
Makes one wonder... So, what constitutes "complex" SQL?
Edit: Yes, I want your individual opinion.
Wayne
Microsoft Certified Master: SQL Server 2008
Author - SQL Server T-SQL Recipes
July 3, 2009 at 10:25 am
RBarryYoung (7/3/2009)
Lynn Pettis (7/3/2009)
Maybe I am letting things get to me more right now, but in this case I really don't think so.It's just how Eswin changed things and tried to make it look like I hadn't met his requirements initially. Perhaps, instead of say "no my date data type is datetime" and had said, okay, but let's change the requirements a bit, now how would you do it. Then none of this would have occurred. And to start off the post with "are you pulling my leg"? Please, I really felt like he was trying to make me look like I wasn't working with him to help solve a problem.
Ah, but you see you are missing a possibility here. It could be both. 🙂 I remember back in Q1 I had several weeks where I was really racking up the posts. But I eventually started to notice that it was having certain effects on me: like I was becoming really fed up that people never seemed to post the dang error message, or that it seemed like half of the posters could have answered their own question if they had just read the error message ("That's right, 'Permission Denied' means that you do not have permission.").
And most of all, that people would say, or describe themselves as doing, something obnoxious or offensive and when they got called on it instead of admitting it and apologizing, they would start equivocating and claim that "that wasn't what I meant" when it was pretty darn clear that that was exactly what they meant. And then I would see red and start going off on them. What I was forgetting was that individual communication (and indeed all social discourse and arguably all progress towards modern civilization) relies on the practice of giving each other a little grace, including allowing other people to occasionally state that they didn't say or mean something that you're pretty sure that they did. (there's actually been scientific studies on this)
Now when when I said above that "I eventually stated to notice...", what I really meant (:-)) was that Jeff Moden sent me a PM smacking me upside the head saying, "Barry, what are you doing? This isn't like you at all." That's when I took a step back and thought about it a little and realized that I was under too much stress and was pushing myself too hard, because these were all tell-tale signs of burnout, specifically what we used to call "newsgroup" burnout.
So, from Jeff to me to you, Lynn: "[*smack!*] Dude! What are you doing? This isn't like you at all." 🙂
Actually, you're a little slow there. Gail already smacked me but hers was a bit subtle and has taken me sleeping on last night to realize it fully. But this did help as well. Eswin did send me a PM apologizing as well. Still feel a bit angry, not sure how to respond so I won't yet.
I do need to step back a bit, but I'm not going to let this stop me from trying to help others. I just have to get out my halo polish and clean it up. 😉
Thanks guys and gals!
July 3, 2009 at 10:57 am
Re: Lynn and Eswin...
Ah, my goodness. I don't think I could have invented a more clear case for the importance of careful use of punctuation. There's a book that reached some level of popularity a couple of years ago called "Eats Shoots and Leaves". Its cover had drawings of pandas holding guns amidst a stand of bamboo plants, the point being that "Eats, shoots, and leaves" has a quite different meaning than "Eats shoots and leaves." Did the murderous animal have dinner, kill his companion, then escape? or did he simply consume parts of a bamboo stalk?
Eswin's post would have been so much different and caused such an opposite reaction, I'm sure, had it included a comma or something else to separate the two clauses in that offending sentence. "Sorry Lynn had made a mistake............" could have been "Sorry Lynn, had made a mistake..........."
I'm happy to see that Lynn has accepted what certainly appears to be a sincere apology for an honest error, and hope that Eswin has learned a valuable lesson about the value of the "Preview" button.
July 3, 2009 at 11:32 am
WayneS (7/3/2009)
Makes one wonder... So, what constitutes "complex" SQL?
Replacing the * with column names?
😀
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July 3, 2009 at 11:38 am
RBarryYoung (7/3/2009)
Now when when I said above that "I eventually stated to notice...", what I really meant (:-)) was that Jeff Moden sent me a PM smacking me upside the head saying, "Barry, what are you doing? This isn't like you at all." That's when I took a step back and thought about it a little and realized that I was under too much stress and was pushing myself too hard, because these were all tell-tale signs of burnout, specifically what we used to call "newsgroup" burnout.
So, from Jeff to me to you, Lynn: "[*smack!*] Dude! What are you doing? This isn't like you at all." 🙂
Heh... "MIRV pork chops"... gotta love 'em. Thanks for passing them forward. 😛 Like Red-Green says, "We're all in this together and I'm pullin' for ya." 🙂
--Jeff Moden
Change is inevitable... Change for the better is not.
July 3, 2009 at 11:54 am
Barry, You got smacked in the head with a pork chop?? :blink: Was it frozen or thawed??:hehe:
-Roy
July 3, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Roy Ernest (7/3/2009)
Barry, You got smacked in the head with a pork chop?? :blink: Was it frozen or thawed??:hehe:
My intent was, properly cooked and tasty.
--Jeff Moden
Change is inevitable... Change for the better is not.
July 3, 2009 at 12:04 pm
Jeff Moden (7/3/2009)
Roy Ernest (7/3/2009)
Barry, You got smacked in the head with a pork chop?? :blink: Was it frozen or thawed??:hehe:My intent was, properly cooked and tasty.
Just the way I like 'em. UUuummm poorrrrk choooopss ...
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Proactive Performance Solutions, Inc. [/font][font="Verdana"] "Performance is our middle name."[/font]
July 3, 2009 at 12:07 pm
Heh... ready Barry? Show 'em what you do with these... (remember? :-P)
--Jeff Moden
Change is inevitable... Change for the better is not.
July 3, 2009 at 1:02 pm
john.arnott (7/3/2009)
Re: Lynn and Eswin...Ah, my goodness. I don't think I could have invented a more clear case for the importance of careful use of punctuation. There's a book that reached some level of popularity a couple of years ago called "Eats Shoots and Leaves". Its cover had drawings of pandas holding guns amidst a stand of bamboo plants, the point being that "Eats, shoots, and leaves" has a quite different meaning than "Eats shoots and leaves." Did the murderous animal have dinner, kill his companion, then escape? or did he simply consume parts of a bamboo stalk?
Eswin's post would have been so much different and caused such an opposite reaction, I'm sure, had it included a comma or something else to separate the two clauses in that offending sentence. "Sorry Lynn had made a mistake............" could have been "Sorry Lynn, had made a mistake..........."
I'm happy to see that Lynn has accepted what certainly appears to be a sincere apology for an honest error, and hope that Eswin has learned a valuable lesson about the value of the "Preview" button.
John, Well said. It is one of the reasons I try not to write important things in short, abbreviated forms (or Yoda speak) when I am trying to get important ideas and concepts across.
Plus, when attempting humour, I usually only do that when I have developed some report with the individual. Jeff, Gail, Paul, Bob, Gus, Grant, Wayne, Alvin, Barry, and few others I can't think of of hand are in that group. I may throw in some humour with others, but I try to keep it simple and obvious. I that other thread, I may have pushed it a bit, and probably should have added a little. "Really? That's it?" could have been followed with "That is an easy problem to solve, how's this for a solution." Or something like that.
Hindsight, 20/20. Still, I was not happy with the responses that followed, and things just escalated.
July 3, 2009 at 1:28 pm
Jeff Moden (7/3/2009)
Heh... ready Barry? Show 'em what you do with these... (remember? :-P)
That looks thick and Juicy... 🙂
-Roy
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