Editor: This editorial was originally published on Jun 23, 2005. It is being reprinted today as Steve is on vacation.

Can wives shorten your work hours? Or spouses, to be fair to all? I saw this piece that commented on long work hours and that spouses withholding attention, love, whatever, might help to reign in those crazy work hours.

I guess it depends and I know that finding a balance between home life and work is a hard thing to do, and it's a very personal thing. You have to really work at it and make those tradeoffs that work for your family. I know that executives are sometimes in a different situation than most of the rest of us, but it does seem that with people in technology, there is this tendency to work any and all hours, treating many situations as a crisis that has to be resolved immediately.

I know it's not just technology, doctors, lawyers, and other professions seem to attract and require long hours for success. Starting young, with no family, it's easy to get sucked into long hours, trying to "outwork" the next guy and get ahead, get more experience, show that you are a great employee. And with that build up a good salary, get yourself set for life. I know I've often seen younger people try to get ahead at the expense of those with families because they're willing to work more.

Perhaps that's just the nature of the beast, and I know that we do need people like that. Those that work the extra hours, that spend more time on problems, are more devoted, are often the ones that really can drive a business forward.

But lots of people contribute to success and can make a difference. Not always with long hours. There are lots of people that put family and downtime at a higher priority than work and their careers. Not that they are less professional, or that they are less valuable, but they have their own agendas and their own lives to live. A good manager, a good leader, will work with those people's strengths and use them to the best advantage of the company without requiring them to work crazy hours and be connected all the time. Something that would likely drive them away.

Most professionals will stay late, pull the all-nighter, really help out when it's needed in a crisis. Just don't ask them to do it everyday.

Steve Jones