Today’s coping tip is to show an active interest by asking questions when talking to others.
I listen more and more these days. I’m trying to input less and hear more, while still being engaged.
However, I know that sometimes I need to carry my weight in a conversation and ensure people know I do care. I want to ask questions, but not those that put them on the defensive or imply judgment. Instead, I want curious questions.
While talking with a kid I coach about their weekend, about which they were very excited, I showed them enthusiasm, but I wanted to keep hearing about what this kid liked. So I asked about the best part, the parts they’re repeat, the reactions from others. Little questions to let them know I was listening and caring.
I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQL Server Central newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.