I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to share what you are feeling with someone you really trust.
This is tough for me. I tend to be a little closed off and private in many ways, but I’ve learned to open up a bit. Part of this is growth, part is being a good partner, part is modeling what I hope my kids to better than me.
My wife is my partner. In many ways, she is the only person I “choose” in my life that is a constant. I didn’t choose my parents, I didn’t choose my kids, and I certainly don’t get to choose co-workers. I choose friends, but there often isn’t quite the same closeness.
I won’t share my feelings here, but I have been working to let my wife know more often when I am feeling when I feel it. It’s that last part I can struggle with. I brood, I think, I over-analyze.
I’m not a stream-of-consciousness talked, but I am learning to do that more often. It’s been a 2 decade plus long journey that I continue today.