I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to learn something new and share it with others.
That’s most of my job, learning things and helping others. I’m going to continue today, though today I am going to share something different.
From the Feedback book I’m reading, there was a very interesting chapter on how we sort our feedback (think of the Harry Potter Sorting Hat). Do we sort towards evaluation or coaching? It seems most people tend to lean one way or the other. Not always, but it’s a tendency. When someone says something to us, or about us, this is a kind if feedback. “You might do it like this instead” or “That outfit is a little casual”.
Do we take this as evaluation (judgment)? Or coaching, meaning they think we might not be aware of something. It could be meant either way, but the way we receive it impacts us. I know I tend towards evaluation, but an exercise in the book said to think about the item both ways before reacting.
No matter what you decide to do, the exercise is interesting and helps temper my internal feelings.