I started to add a daily coping tip to the SQLServerCentral newsletter and to the Community Circle, which is helping me deal with the issues in the world. I’m adding my responses for each day here. All my coping tips are under this tag.
Today’s tip is to notice how you speak to yourself. Try to use kind words.
I can be hard on myself. If I don’t get something done that I planned, or I skip out on some activity, I get a little annoyed with myself. My long running streak was the result of this attitude, but it can be unhealthy if I don’t have flexibility with myself.
As I get older, and hopefully a little wiser, I to be more understanding of the choices I make and the benefits or costs of each. Skipping the gym isn’t necessarily a bad choice, depending on why. I’m also learning to better listen to the state of my physical and mental health on a regular basis.
As a result, I try not to berate myself, or not to denigrate myself. I’m trying to continue to push myself to be better, but understand that a step backwards at times is OK. Remind myself of the accomplishments and then encourage myself to move forward again tomorrow.